How
To Make Your Move Easier on Your Family
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People
generally have two kinds of needs during a home purchase.
First are the transactional needs, such as searching for a
home, obtaining financing, negotiating the terms of purchase,
completing paperwork and legal documents, and arranging the
move. The second are emotional needs that are involved in
a home purchase, which can be where the most stress occurs
in a home purchase. The following are just a handful of tips
to help you and your family ease the stress of moving.
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Prepare your children |
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Although
you may have lived in your current residence for just a
few years, the same few years can be half the lifetime of
a seven- or eight-year-old, and can include all the years
he or she can remember. Your current residence may be the
only home your children have ever known, where they feel
safe and comfortable. It may be the center of your childrens'
world.
Be sure
to announce the move in a completely positive way. You might
talk about how beautiful the neighborhood is and how good
the schools are. Bring your children to the new house, if
you live close enough that it is possible to do so. Otherwise,
positively describe the new house. Find out what your children's
favorite things are in your current home, and then try to
re-create them in the new home. Keep your children actively
involved in the process. For instance, don't just promise
that they can decorate their new rooms, but take them shopping
for paint, bedspreads, carpets, and other items that will
make the experience more fun and comforting.
Your
children are bound to have worries, fears, and sorrows during
the move. They may be moving away from friends and family
they have known their whole lives. Find ways to make parting
pleasant. You can plan a going-away party and let your children
invite their own guests. Take pictures of everyone and create
a photo album. If your children are old enough, allow them
to take pictures of the neighborhood that they will want
to remember.
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Gain knowledge |
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You
may feel a sense of being out of control, as though other
parties to the purchase transaction are running the show
and you're merely getting in their way. Your mortgage company,
the appraiser, the inspector, and the seller all have certain
powers to approve or disapprove of your overall plan to
purchase this home and move successfully. This is certainly
not easy!
Although
this can feel stressful, one of the best things you can
do for your own peace of mind is to understand as much of
the purchase process as possible. Your Realtor® will
be able to prepare you for unknowns ahead of time and tie
down loose ends as soon as possible.
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Trust the process |
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There
can be so much to do that it's easy to panic. It may feel
like you're taking a big risk, but the truth is that you're
initiating a big opportunity for you and your family. Even
though you can't predict what will happen every step of
the way, your Realtor® helps people buy and sell homes
as a profession! Your Realtor® has been there before
and understands that this is a major upheaval in your life.
Trust that your Realtor® is looking out for you on your
way to a successful closing and move.
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Be flexible |
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Knowing
that your Realtor® will do everything possible to prepare
you for the various processes involved in your home purchase,
and will tie up those loose ends quickly and efficiently,
it's important for you to remember that there is no such
thing as a perfect world. The property inspection may reveal
areas of concern, or closing may be delayed for some reason.
Try to take a deep breath and be flexible in your thinking.
You will have a much greater chance of making your decisions
based on logic and not high emotion.
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Seek entertainment |
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Whenever
you feel that things are spinning out of control, find a diversion!
Take a walk around your new neighborhood, go on a day trip
out of town with your family, or take your family to a movie.
Whatever diversion or outlet works best for you, this is a
good time to engage in it! Remember to take one "move"
at a time. |
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